Homophobic/racist

I'm tired of my homophobic and racist family. They keep telling my son he can't grow up to be gay. Like I bought him a few boy styled rompers from Carters and they say rompers are for girls. If he does turn out to be gay I wouldn't care. Then anything I read about babies like for example cereal puffs are recommended for 9 months and up they say "don't you listen to those white people". My babies other family is mad at me because they haven't seen him since he was 1 month but they act so controlling and tell me that I needed to suck it up when I got depressed after I gave birth. I'm relying on my family for help that's the only reason why I am still talking to them. I could care less about my babies other family. Am I wrong?