kind of a disappointing switch
my boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year, and we've talked about marriage and kids and stuff before and i was taking some silly buzzfeed quiz that was like "we'll predict what kind of engagement ring you'll have" or something like that. so i'm showing my boyfriend pictures or whatever as i take the quiz like if we got married what season would you want the wedding to be in, would you rather have a bouncy castle at the reception or a photo booth? stuff like that, and suddenly he was like "i'm never getting married" even though we've talked about it numerous times in "what if" kinds of situations, he's said if he proposes to me he wants to make the ring himself, and we have this little bet about kids because i always say how i want twins and he says it's not gonna happen. but when he went on to explain the reason why he says marriage doesn't really signify things for him, which that and him not feeling like marriage is something he wants isn't really what upset me, it's more when he went on to explain that it's because "when people break up then you have to divorce, i don't think there's a point to marriage because you just last however long it lasts and then when it's over there's nothing to worry about" something like that, i don't remember it exactly but the way he said it just felt like he was saying "well we're going to break up eventually" which is ultimately the reason i'm upset. i know you can't predict the future so who knows maybe some day down the road we will break up, but i think that's entirely different than thinking "it's bound to happen" it just makes me feel like what's the point of being in a relationship if that's how you feel? i don't want to just be with you to pass time, i'm with you because i love you and i do see you in my future. it just feels like we're suddenly on different pages and it kinda just… put me in a let down kind of mindset. I always saw marriage in my future, i understand that it's not for everyone but i do want it for myself, i don't want to be a grown woman and still be introduced as someone's girlfriend, and i also don't think you have to be married to have kids, if you want to have kids but don't want to be married that's also an individuals prerogative, but personally i want to be a wife before i'm a mom. so i don't know, it just stung a little bit that he has a different view on the subject
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