COPING AFTER MISCARRIAGE

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Donna
Any advice, tips or tricks? We had our D and C on Wednesday and I literally feel like my heart is ripped out of my chest. I'm crying so hard at night time I get nosebleeds. My heart literally hurts. We've been struggling with infertility (I have PCOS) and this was our first pregnancy. 
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First of all, I'm very sorry that you had to experience this. But truth is, there is nothing anyone can say to make it better. Time will heal this wound of yours. I, myself, suffered from 5 miscarriages. After the second I contemplated suicide. We had just found out the gender and announced to the family the name. With the last 3, I was just sort of "used to it." Miscarriage is unfortunately so common, and it's very painful, especially when you see others having no issues at all. But I promise, you will make it through. It might take another week or two, but it's common to feel so hurt. You're not alone.I finally was put on Progesterone, and I am now 22 weeks with a baby boy. You're day will come.❤

Ka

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I made a shadow box with some of the stuff I had for it (too early to know the gender). I also am planning on getting a tattoo, I just haven't gotten around to it yet. Most recently, I used my experience for my art final. After I turn it in and get it graded, I plan on hanging it on my wall by the shadow box. To me, it helps me know that it did happen and my baby was alive at one point. It mattered.

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Im so sorry for your loss. I miscarried in 2015 with my first pregnancy. Just give your self time. It took me a year to feel like my self again. The hormones and emotions and grief take a tole . Don't give up. On day at a time. Talking about it helped me. I found other people who had gone through it to and i didn't feel so alone. You arnt alone.

Me

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I've suffered 3 losses 2 miscarriages and the third being an ectopic which I needed surgery for. I also had bronchitis at the time of my surgery and I broke up with my SO. I called my ex SO at the time and he rushed to be by my side for the death and funeral for our baby. My ectopic was confirmed at the hospital's outpatient clinic. I cried so hard on my way to the er, that I had to pull over. I had to wait what seemed like an eternity to be wheeled into the OR. I woke up in excruciating pain because she had to cut me transversely (csection) due to my baby being just millimeters from my uterus. I cried from the pain of losing my child, having major abdominal surgery, and from my bronchitis coughs. I was numb, my was a major support he helped me through everything. He bathed me, fed me, took care of our other children, slept on the couch in my hospital room all while he was silently grieving for our child. My tube was saved and a year later we conceived on the first try and we'll be welcoming a baby girl in August. I wrote all of this to say nothing about child loss/miscarriage is easy. Allow yourself to go through the stages of grief, remember your partner is hurting too even though they may not show it, take the time you need to heal before you decide to ttc again. I promise the pain gets easier but you never forget your baby. I'll be praying for you. 🤗🤗

Li

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I got a tattoo and I drank a lot of wine. 

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Was just through the same. I'm planning to get a tatto for my little boy. I also go to therapy which helps a little bit.