not wanting ft sex or planned sex all the time

Am I wrong for not wanting to have ft sex when I'm in a long distance relationship! Am I also wrong for not wanting to have sex as soon as they see me because I would like to enjoy the person first. I used to like ft sex but it's almost all the time now and and when I do see him all he's worried about is having sex with me planning things that we have to do. I just want him to enjoy me take me out on a date cuddle get food. He got me in trouble last year over wanting sex and said because I promised it that I clearly wanted it and so I shouldn't have backed out. So of course me being dumb I sneak somewhere and get caught not doing it but going with him. He says sex isn't that serious but he gets mad and disrespectful if I say no. Idk if I am weird and my sex drive sucks or if I'm not attracted to him or if it's him being all demanding and rude when I'm doing my best and just want attention.