Firefighter gf/wife

Are there any other ladies that are fire wife's of girlfriends?

My husband is the youngest on the department. And even though that is his job it very much is a part of home life. I often feel like I don't know how to act or treat him after a hard day (the first time he watched a 6 month old baby die). My mother-in-law is also a fire wife but my father-in-law is no longer working for a department so I feel weird talking about it with her and the added fact that it's her son.