how are you handling nights with a newborn?

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My husband and I have been struggling trying to figure out a schedule with our 2 week old who is up almost the entire night. I'm a sahm and he is back at work and I feel bad having him stay up since he has to go to work the next day but I also feel so rundown from not sleeping. I will take a. So here and there during the day but I feel like I'm getting sick. Are your significant others helping/staying up with baby at night even though they are working?

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My husband helped me the first week when he was home, but after that I got up since he had to work in the morning. Those first couple months are hard mama, I know. What you might want to try is having daddy get up on the weekends with baby so you can get some rest (that's what we did.) I'm sorry you're tired, I know it's hard! It'll get better, I promise!

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I lei him sleep. He has to be up working all day and I can nap during the day with her.

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I am a SAHM also, my daughter is now 10 months old. I also EBF so I was the one that got up with her all the time. I had no problem doing it bc I would sleep during the day and you just get used to it eventually. Also if I was extremely tired than my husband would watch the baby while I went to bed at like 9 or 10 and he would wake me up when she needed to be fed and then she would be going to sleep so I would feed her and put her in bed and then go back to sleep myself, it worked pretty well for us. Good luck hun! You got this, and it goes by so fast! ❤️

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I had my husband get up with her for the earlier parts of the night, and took over for him for the later parts. That way he still got sleep, and I got some as well... I don't care if you work or not, sleep is necessary, and it can't always be broken that frequently.

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My husband would help with getting ready for bed, but after the first two weeks it was all me. If I was feeling particularly tired or like I was potentially endangering baby from how sleepy I was during the day, I would call family to come by so I could have a nap every so often. Or I would order a pizza and ignore household chores for the day, and my husband would let me take 2-3 hours of nap time for myself before bed time.

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When you say up all night is it feeding all night or just being awake all night. My daughter was completely nocturnal, like wouldn't go to bed until 4am! Then one day she was actually up all night until 6am so I spoke to someone about it and basically she had her days and nights mixed up so we would wake her through the day. Play with her etc. So I would try that.

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Focus on helping him straighten his days & nights out: things should be noisy, active, & bright during the day & quiet & dark at night.

We both get up at night: my husband changes baby's diaper while I get ready to breastfeed (bathroom, water/snacks) then goes back to sleep, & I do the rest.

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My husband always likes to stay up late watching the late shows anyway. So when our son was a newborn, I would go to bed early (around 9pm) and my husband would take charge of the next feed (normally around midnight). Then he'd go to bed and I'd take the next feed (normally around 3 or 4am), as well as deal with any early morning wakings. Husband would normally sleep about 12:30-7:30 and then go to work. I could sleep fairly solid 9pm-3am and then doze on and off after that.

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I ebf but my husband takes a nighttime feeding so i can get some extra sleep. He takes the feeding after the midnight one. He'll get up with baby and ill get up only to pump(so the next night he has a bottle to give baby) and ill go right back to sleep. I felt bad at first since he's working but he wanted to have the extra bonding time with him and he still got longer stretches of sleep since i would take the baby all the other times.

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I agree with focusing on getting their day and nights figured out and starting a nighttime routine so they start sleeping longer stretches at night. I'm EBF so I don't make my SO get up at night since there isn't anything he can really do and he gets up at 5:30 for work. He did help the first week because I was too sore to get out of bed.  Thankfully my daughter only wakes up twice now, nurses then goes back to sleep. I try to nap at least once during the day too. Stay strong, it does get better!!

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