Did I take it too far?

Gretchen
Ok so I know first newborn weeks are hard and rarely get any sleep and my husband has been working. But tomorrow her works at 4pm, so I ask him to help me in taking a turn feeding the baby at night. She cries and I feed her the first time cause he finished work aroudn 10:30 so I let him sleep. But when the baby cries around 4:30, I ask him midsleep to make the bottle. Still I hear the baby fussing and now starting to cry. He hasn't gotten up. I nudge him and ask him to feed her. The table is so close he can sit while he makes the bottle so he says that his feet hurt from working. This has been going on for weeks. Sometimes I'm so sleep deprived that I fall asleep even while standing in the kitchen. So instead of asking again, I get up and stomp to make the bottle and snap at him saying that it was the last time I ask him for help with the baby ever again. He didn't really move much and went back to sleep. But what if he did hear me and fot upset? Did I go to far?
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Me

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Why are you concerned about "going to far" he is the father & whether he works or not he needs to help out with HIS child sometimes. If you're so sleep deprived you're falling asleep standing up he needs to get up off his ass & help more. Whether you work or not you still need sleep.

Mi

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Sometimes they feel entitled not to do anything since they're are the ones "working"... At least for money.They just don't know how tired we are, and it's so fecking frustrating. 😭😭😭

Mi

Michelle 🌵 • May 6, 2017
I don't think he heard you, or if he did, that he'd care. don't worry to much about it.

St

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I would've shoved him out of bed and pretended to be asleep after he thumped on the ground 

Sa

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If he's anything like my husband he was probably sound asleep and didn't even hear what you said. He can sleep through the baby crying. I have no idea how!

La

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My husband is cranky at night. It's not about the baby, it's about sleep. I just ask for hubbys help on weekends bc he works. 

br

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Oh no that's what my hubby would wish I would do. He's hoping he can ignore the baby and I enough that I just get up and do it so he can sleep in... nope. I love my son but it isn't fair that I'm the only one. I'll nudge my hubby until he gets up and shake his arms over and over.. and I'll let the baby cry. It will wake him up. It makes my heartbreak but it works. He only has to feed baby two nights of the week, and he still isn't very pleasant. We agreed on this schedule and he still gets up and calls me worthless 

Gr

Gretchen • May 8, 2017
that sucks. my husband just whines and says his feet hurt and stuff like that

Ka

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My husband never hears our daughter.  When I was on maternity leave and he was working I never tried to wake him up to help because it would take to long to actually wake him up.  I literally have to jump on him to do so.