What do I say... **possible trigger**

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My best friend had a miscarriage a couple months ago and she's having a really hard time with her loss... 
I obviously want to be there for her but when she texts me about it I just don't know how to respond :( it makes me feel like such a horrible friend because I want to make her feel better..

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Honestly one of the best things you can do is acknowledge that her baby was there and that she is still a mother. I had such a hard time when I had a miscarriage because everyone just acted as if nothing had even happened. Just let her know that she can just sit and cry with you if she needs to. You don't have to say anything, just be there for her to vent or a shoulder to cry on. You can also let her know that it is okay to grieve and that it is an important step to moving on. And that moving on does not mean forgetting or never talking about it again. Her baby was real and it is important that her and everyone else around her realizes that.

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It's hard with a miscarriage. It really is, I lost our first baby (first pregnancy) back in February. It still gets too me. (Took tell the end of March to get rid of all leftover HCG, sucked watching my line get lighter instead of darker) It sucks because no one around me knows how it feels to lose something like that. My coworker got pregnant 2-3 weeks before me and just found out the sex of her baby last week. It killed me knowing that here in a week or so I would have been figuring out my babies gender.😭

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I'm feeling like that Today but can't tell anyone it's only been a week but a friend said to be on Saturday you're not coping you should be over it by now. This video is worth a watch https://www.facebook.com/CarlyMarieProjectHeal/posts/1436396829750235

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I really commend you on reaching out and getting advice on what to say - speaks volumes about the kind of friend you are. You can straight out ask her, what can I do to support you? for me- When I am upset hate going out and pretending to be happy. Sometimes I want to talk about it and sulk. would she appreciate something to pamper herself that you can do together (a massage, a pedicure, a facial, etc.). Maybe you can offer that?

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Just try being like "I know I was never in your position (unless you were) so I don't know what it's like to have to go through something like that, but if there is anything I can do to help keep your mind free from that situation, don't hesitate to let me know." & Y'all could possibly meet up later & do something. Idk..

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I am so glad you are still reaching out to your friend. I lost a lot of relationships between infertility and pregnancy losses. Not because of dramatic fallings out or anything like that, but everyone felt awkward around me and started avoiding me. 
If you don't know what to say that is fine maybe tell her that. "I don't know what to say, because this is so sad." 
<3

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