He doesn't help with the new baby AT ALL. Seriously, I can count on one hand how many times he's changed a diaper, and he rarely ever feeds him (never overnight because he works). He helps with the 3 year old from the time he gets home until the the time my 3 year old goes to bed (about 3 hours), but I've already been taking care of both of them all day. I keep the house clean, he never does dishes, never washes the bottles, never takes the trash out, never does the laundry, never cooks dinner... and dinner is always ready and hot for him when he gets home from work. Always. 

I haven't had a decent night of sleep since I had baby #2, and I don't go out (obviously still healing and don't want to deal with 2 kids, and don't want to leave a newborn with a sitter). He complains that for the last 3 weeks he hasn't been able to go hang out with his buddies. All he does is work and come home and help with the kids (ha!) and it's not fair to him! I'm literally about to scream. Today, he came home, ate his dinner, took a shower and took our 3 year old out to play. An hour passes, and he finally comes back, my son is filthy and needs a bath, but my husband had started a game of basketball with some neighbors and wanted to finish because he "wants 15 minutes" to himself. So now, I have to drag my newborn upstairs with me while I bathe my son, and I'm already exhausted... I just can't with him. He plays video games every night while I feed the baby, finish cleaning the house for the day, give the baby a bath (sometimes), and prepare bottles for night time feedings, and then complains when I ask him to keep an eye on the baby (usually sleeping) while I take a quick shower. 

I'm losing my mind. I appreciate the little bit he helps, don't get me wrong, and I signed up for all of the exhaustion and work when we decided to have a second kid, but I didn't sign up alone. And that's how I feel. Like a single parent. I don't know what to do, and I know when I tell him how I feel he'll throw the "you're a stay at home mom, that's your job" and "I'm doing the best I can" in my face and make me feel like the bad guy. Ugh. 😩