someone help

So I have a Issue.... i can't really talk to anyone because I don't have any real friends. I'm 27. My husband is 33. We've dated only a few months and got married immediately within those few months of dating. We've been married for 2 yrs and 3 months. In the beginning our relationship was nothing but spending time together and sex. Once I moved in with him (I think we were together for 3 months then) the sex didn't die. I got pregnant, and the sex started to die out after I was like 4 months pregnant. I guess it was because we were having complications during the pregnancy where I had to be on bed rest and he was afraid to hurt me when we did it. So after our little girl was born (sept. 2015) I couldn't wait to have sex again. Lol. He wasn't in a rush. I was lol. Everything was good but then Our sex life has gone down since September 2016. He's constantly told me he doesn't feel very confident about himself or happy with the way he looks. I constantly tell him he's sexy and very handsome. He ignores it. I've constantly told him what I need and he's not listening to my needs. I tried to talk to him on Sunday and he kept saying he doesn't have the urge. I told him maybe he should go to the doctor. He says nothing is wrong with him. I cry and tell him that I would go to the doctor and find a way to bring my sex drive down so that way he wouldn't have to try and have sex with me anymore. Idk why but sex is very important to me in a relationship. It didn't use to be. But with him it's different.... Idk... our sex life is so difficult that I haven't had a orgasm in almost a year and he hasn't even gone down on me at all this yr. Last yr I only got it twice. I wanna say this is why people cheat. I haven't cheated on him. But I have cheated on a ex I was with for 8 yrs. it was mainly because he didn't spend time with me, there was no sex, and no dates together, nothing. I wouldn't ever get any gifts for my birthday,xmas, Valentine's Day, Mother's Day. But he would get mad at me for not giving him anything. And he had cheated on me at our 3 yr mark. We had a daughter together, and she's about to be 10 this Saturday. So yeah he was mad when he found out I was cheating on him with my now husband. I just don't know what to do. I feel like my marriage is sexless, we don't have date nights, he doesn't tell me I'm pretty or gorgeous anymore.  And his comment to that was because he doesn't want me my head to get too big? Like I know I'm pretty, it's just I want to hear it from him... We still cuddle in bed when we go to sleep. I don't get flowers anymore. I get the occasional chocolate & soda from the store every now and then. Sometimes chili and stuff  for him to make me a Fritos pie. He just confuses me a lot and idk if it's because we're different races. (I'm a Latina, 27 yrs old ... he's Caucasian, 33 yrs old) I grew up wayyy different than he did. I started having sex at 16. He tells me he was 12. I haven't had many partners. He won't ever tell me his number... I'm just confused and not sure how to talk to him about this. I just wish he'd compromise with me and take some pills or something.