why does this bother me?

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For starters I work 40 hrs a week, I pick up my two kids from school, go home, make dinner, do dishes, clean the house, take care of the animals. I do a lot but before today I assumed that's just what motherhood is. Then at a family gathering today everyone is sympathizing over a family member complaining that she's too exhausted from watching the kids to cook or do housework. She is a sahm of two kids. Her husband works 48+ hrs a week, he comes home, cooks, does dishes, cleans the house, AND watches the kids while she takes a nap. She doesn't even cook for the kids while he's at work. They eat cereal and microwave dinners! Maybe I don't understand because I'm not a sahm. But I feel like if I can do all of this AND a 40hr a week job then why can't u do it with no job? I think she was just complaining to get attention and it just bothered me so much. Sorry I'm done ranting lol.

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I'm married, however my husband works second shift so Monday through Friday I am pretty much a single mom. He gets our oldest daughter dressed and does her hair. He makes her breakfast and takes her to school. He does the yard work, vacuums and some laundry in the morning while entertaining our youngest before he leaves for work. If our youngest cooperates he will do some of the dishes. He cooks some Mondays so that Tuesday I can just heat up food and not rush around (ballet practice for oldest is Tuesday's). I do a lot more than him, especially since during the school year he really only has 1 kid to take care of, while I have them both when I get home. I'd prefer to do most of the cleaning cuz I don't like how he cleans. But if I have a lazy day or two he will try to pick up where I left off.

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You are not alone. This would seriously bother me as well.

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r u a single mom u shouldnt be doin all that yourself.  the sahm not sure what her deal is. if there are no medical reason she should be able to cook and do housework. my mom did with 4 small kids llol

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I know where you're coming from. I don't work 40 hour weeks, luckily I only have to work 20-25 for us to get by, but since becoming pregnant it's been super draining and I struggle to get anything done when I'm home.  My sister in law has no kids and doesn't work and whenever I see her all she does is whinge about how sore and tired she is.  It frustrates me, but then I look at the lessons im teaching my children and I feel a bit better.  I grew up watching my mum work hard to give us a better life, and it has instilled a positive work ethic in me. I hope I do the same with my children too.

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I am a working single mom do everything myself. Child, bills ect. 12 hour shifts. Get home 8 pm. Picky my kid up from sites house. Get home, bathe her, give her a sna,k, get her ready for bed. Clean, get her things ready for the next morning, have to cook and  feed myself, then take a shower and do it all again the next day. I can't stand when people complain they are tired from staying home all day and nothing. Because I be the same way, if I can do it then you can do it to.

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Actually my life was more simple as a single working mom. I had 3 kids and no help. I have been a SAHM. A married working mother. And I'm a SAHM again. My life has way more balance working. I've been a mom 17 years. I've done this stint twice. I can't wait to go back to work in a few years. Plus I like getting paid for the work that I do.

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Why are you doing everything yourself? Are you a single mom?

why does this bother me?

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