Honestly I am getting so fucking sick of being told how I can't do this or that or ANYTHING once the baby comes. My life isn't over, and as long as I'm not risking the health of my child, who the fuck cares if I go and have a date night with my SO? Who cares if I drink coffee or have a glass of wine after the baby is here?! I'm not planning to douse myself in Jack Daniels and run around town naked whilst doing drugs, Jesus Christ. My baby is the most important thing now and forever, but that doesn't turn me into an automaton with no needs and desires of my own. And I'm not a "terrible mom" for still planning to do things. Hell, I plan to have the baby with me basically 24/7, but I'm still allowed me time.