If you were expecting a child with a man who didn't care about taking care of home (rather spend your last on scratch offs, cigarettes, weed, or just doing things with your money at the wrong time) what would you do? He's beyond being talked to. It either goes in one ear and out of the other with him or he gets argumentative because he feels that you're bringing up the fact that he isn't working and all of the money that he's spending is actually yours. Oh, and you guys aren't married (just engaged and planning and he doesn't even know the correct date, I just found out) but you do live together.