I don't think he was ready for this...

I woke up this morning to a text from my friend asking where my husband was. I told her I assumed he was at PT because It's a Friday. She said that her boyfriend, who works with my husband, just called her and said that my husband didn't show up to PT this morning. I'm out of state visiting my parents so I'm freaking out and trying to figure out what to do. I try calling my husband but he doesn't answer. I call my friend back and she says that they've sent someone to our house to try and find him but like I said, I'm out of state and I know he's not there because he told me he was going to the barracks to hang out with some friends that night. I told my friend to tell her boyfriend where my husband was supposed to be and who he was with because I couldn't call his friends myself, I don't have their numbers. I keep calling and calling my husbands phone because I'm so scared. I don't know if he's stil in the Barracks, if he tried to drive home and got in an accident, I don't know what has happened. Finally, after calling about 10 times, an unfamiliar voice answers. He tells me that they were colleagues sent to find my husband and that he's passed out in the barracks and they're trying to wake him up. I start freaking out and crying and telling the guy how my husband was supposed to request leave for our sons birthday today but now he's gone and fucked all of that up. The guy assures me that everything will be ok and my husband would call me when he gets up. Well, he didn't call me but about an hour after I got off the phone with the guy he text and said he was ok and that he blacked out last night. I'm so pissed right now. He does this every time I go out of town. He drinks and drinks and drinks and he never calls or texts me like a husband should. I don't think he was ready for this. I don't think he was ready to have a family. Things have been terrible ever since he got back from Kuwait. He drinks more, he's always tired, and the intimacy in our relationship is gone. I keep trying to get him to go to a doctor or a psychologist but he won't. He just wants to "wait it out" but it's been 8 MONTHS! and things have only gotten worse. I don't know what to do. I love him, but this is too much...