I believe love is a choice, you have to choose to love your spouse for better or worse, and marriage is supposed to be til death...but how do you choose to love your spouse when they continuously choose spending time with their friends over their children, leaving their children confused, feeling unwanted and unloved, and emotionally scarred. Every time you try to bring up the issue and explain that they need to spend more time with the kids, your spouse only sees it as nagging and another excuse to get out of the house and hang with his friends. I love this man dearly, i don't know if this is a mid life crisis, or a feeling of acceptance among new friends. But talking doesn't seem to get through to him. And I can't stand one more "why doesn't daddy love me?" This is going to end our marriage if something doesn't change. Any advice?