abusive?

So no rude mean comments please I know right from wrong but sometimes I just NEED to hear it. So there's been a couple of incidents in my relationship that are violent, this one time I was in the shower with my boyfriend and I was playing about and washing him and hogging all the water so he pushed me and I slipped and fell I didn't get hurt but that was one of them. Then this one day I was super crabby and just wasn't talking and I was kinda irritated, then he grabbed my by my neck and pushed me up against the dryer. Then on Sunday I slapped his ass pretty hard but I was just playing around and honestly didn't even mean to do it that hard and he grabbed me by my neck not super hard but grabbed me and pushed me up against the wall and slapped my cheek not like bitch slap but a slap like hay don't don't that shit. Feedback ladies please.