We have been ttc for over a year. Our lack of success at this point isn't for a lack of trying on my part. I finally figured out that by telling my husband when my fertile period was happening was the problem. He got "performance anxiety" and was always too tired or sore or something to do it more than once during that time. I decided to see what would happen if I quit telling him when I was ovulating, and he didn't have any problems finding time or energy to "bd".