Have you ever "made love"?

This might sound sad, but I've had 13 sexual partners, and three long term relationships, and I feel like I've never actually "made love". Okay... maybe once or twice? But going slow and being all gushy doesn't mesh well with sex, in my opinion. I'm just trying to get fucked and enjoy myself. Yet I feel like I could be missing out if I don't get the hang of this making love stuff. 🙄 how do you even do that anyways?