Painful Sex

So I've been trying to have sex for a year now but I'm still having a lot of pain. I'm super confortable with my guy and we've tried lube but I haven't even been able to get his penis in yet because of the pain. I went to the doctor a few months ago, had a pretty painful pelvic exam, and ended up having to get a hymenectomy where they also inserted an IUD, which I've had no problems with. Today, I went to get my strings checked and the pelvic exam was more painful than the first. I thought that it would be easier after having a hymenectomy and knowing what a pelvic exam was like but it was awful. I asked the doctor (not my usual gyno) about my problems and she told me that I'm probably just not ready to have sex but I know I'm as ready as I'll ever be. She then told me to try dilators or a pelvic physical therapist but she didn't seem to care about the pain and blew me off. I'm seeing my normal gyno soon to talk about this but I was wondering if anyone has had a similar experience with this kind of pain and what you've done to help it. I'm just feeling really frustrated and hopeless at this point.