My husband and I have different wants in the bedroom. Since we've been married he's gone down on me once, I had to ask, on our honeymoon. I can not count how many times I've blown him and he gets sad when I don't want to.

Around his birthday, 2 YEARS AGO(married a year before- married 3 years now) he confessed to loving anal. Which is fine. That was my first time doing anal.

Since then, anal has been a part of sex. Every single time. I've expressed to him that I don't want it each time and he said that he was fine with it. Maybe a week later he goes back to his old ways.

Two weeks ago, I showered shaved and got into bed to sleep. He out of nowhere asked me to clean my butt. Now, when I ask for sex I have to serenade him with caresses and kisses, or he won't fee in the mood 🙄 .

I said no because I wasn't in the mood and I knew it would be anal. I told him the next morning, again, that I didn't want to have anal each time we have sex.

He said ok, we haven't had sex since. I know he watches porn and is strictly anal, eleven when we watch together. He, as I'm typing, has 5 wadded tissues on his side of the bed.

I don't know what to do. He seems only to care about himself during sex. No foreplay, almost never vaginal penetration, almost always anal, and he always has his eyes closed ( not an issue but I feel like he's only into his gain, and totally forgets about me. I could be anyone in his head)

I keep thinking that maybe we're just not compatible and should just get a divorce.

Thoughts ?

Update: 90+ yesterday , and the tv is in the bedroom. As I'm watching he comes up, says it's hot and goes downstairs. He then texts me " I wanted to have sex with you but it's too hot in the room. And I'm not sure if I can play with your butt" I said I didn't want anal, he said ok. No thing happened, he stayed downstairs until maybe 11 pm. I know he masturbated, sometimes he'll use a tissue, other times he comes in his hand and washes them just after. I heard the sink maybe 3 times.