visitors after birth?

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I am 38 weeks and due any day now and from day 1 I have made it VERY clear to EVERYONE that I do NOT WANT TO ENTERTAIN ANYONE after having given birth! I think that's more than reasonable. I was raised to be a great hostess and I enjoy it which is part of the reason I'm saying no way! I would feel disgusting if I wasn't showered, manicured, house cleaned, coffee/tea brewing. I'm going to be exhausted and just want to be a slob with my husband and baby ALONE! I'm not afraid of taking care of a newborn I've been caring for children of all ages for over 5 years- I've seen and done it all😂 
But I just don't understand why people are so goddamn pushy!! 
My family hasn't said a damn word to me other than "if you need me just call" 
My MIL on the other hand assumes she'll be staying with us! HAH fat chance. We live 2 hours from any family so it isn't as if they could just stop by and I get that but that doesn't mean an extended stay IN OUR HOME- UNINVITED. She has stated on several occasions that she will stay my whole 6 week maternity leave. No. She has said she and my FIL will come up for a weekend and then she'll stay the week. No. She and her mother bombarded me at my own baby shower and said that grandma HAS to visit her first great grandchild IN HOSPITAL. immediately after its born. She HAS to see and hold it NEWBORN. I said no. Their response? "Fine then youll have to come to see us in those first 6 weeks" UHM I'm sorry bitch- what??? I don't have to do SHIT for you. 
I told them they would not be visiting me or holding my baby and I am getting 8 weeks off- 6 of them paid and nobody would be taking my bonding time with baby and husband away from me. I have soo much to figure out (breast feeding and cloth diapering, how to soothe my own child, and learn their cries) and they said "well we'll just show up then. You can't turn us away if we drive all the way to see you!" To which I said I wouldn't answer the door. Her response? "Okay we'll call and let you know when we're halfway there. How's that?" Bitch I will tell you to turn the fuck around. 
On top of it one of my friends who knows I hate that shit texted me the other day saying that I HAD TO tell her when I was going into labor (bitch???) so that she could pack her shot and come up and be there when we come back?

To top it off nobody has mentioned they want to help my husband and I. Nobody is offering to bring food (except my wonderful family that I nanny for) or do laundry or dishes or clean our house. These selfish mother fuckers just want to hold my baby. 
My response? 
Get ya own damn baby. 
If you're a mom or a grandma YOUVE ALREADY HAD A BABY. THIS ONE IS MINE. 
Hormones are raging but I can't stand rude people 😤😤😤

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You should be grateful you have family and friends that care. If you don't want them around then don't expect t them to be around later when you need someone to help watch your kid some day. Just giving you my 2 cents. Support is hard to find.

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Phew! That was a lot. I can see where you definitely don't want people visiting while you're in the hospital or for expended periods of time, but it's a little extreme to not let anyone visit during your 8 week maternity leave. If I were them, I wouldn't drive two hours to bring you dinner or help you around the house if I couldn't even hold your baby when I'm there. 
Becoming a grandma or grandpa is also a very special event in a person's life and they're just excited. This is you and your SO's baby, so you 100% get to do what you want with him or her. Just don't expect everyone in your family (on either side) to be okay with it.

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Forget everyone else I completely agree with you , I just need space . I even said no pictures and my mil said I was being a bitch and I was like no I don't need my child to be all over social media and his birth announced without both me or my husband actually doing it . It's definitely up to us if we want people intruding on us so early I just want my space 😮

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If you want people to cook, clean, bring you food etc I would probably start off by not saying no you can't see me or hold my baby... having said that, my husband and I also don't want to come home to ppl at our house, but I'm starting to reconsider my parents because they live out of town, but it'll just be for the first day/night home so we can get some rest too.. but no more then that! But we aren't letting ppl in the delivery room with us( once I'm full on going) and not until after the "golden hour" to see her. I know you're totally venting here, but expect ppl to give you an outside perspective too, as in you have to let people see you if you want their help..

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My MIL is being pushy. Saying pretty much that she be there at delivery room. Ya, no she won't. She has 2 other granddaughters and this will be my parents 1st. I am not up for entertaininf either. I am not telling people I am in labor except for my folks.

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Instead of calling people bitch and telling them to turn the fuck around why don't you just do what makes you happy and leave it at that?

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