Not excited-pregnancy after miscarriage

Hi- I just wanted to reach out for some conversation, feedback, commiserate on with some people who have been in the same position. I had my first pregnancy and miscarriage in dec.  Now we're pregnant again, but I just can't get the energy or excitement back.  We haven't passed the same point as the last pregnancy and I wonder if I'll start feeling happy and excited about it if this one actually "sticks"? I'm terrified to feel that disappointment again, so when is it safe to feel?