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Tell him he's not a single person anymore. He's in a relationship AND he has a baby. If he doesn't start acting like a father and helping you take care of the house and baby and spending time with you, tell him you will leave. He has to make an effort. He doesn't get to go out when it's hard and come back once he feels better. It isn't all about him. Tell him to grow the fuck up or you're leaving. There's no custody agreement so if you leave, it's not illegal or anything. He can take you to court for partial or full custody. But I doubt he'll get full custody because he goes out with all types of bad people. And even better, it's all documented on instagram!
So my boyfriend just told me that "I'm different" and I'm "not the same person he fell in love with"...??
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Ma
That's just what I would do in your situation. I just wasn't sure if you wanted to stay home with your kid or not. It's probably better to go back to work so you can get out if you need to. Sorry if I offended at all
Ch
2 years? no that's a long time to basically mooch off of someone. I plan on going back to work next month
Ma
You need to put your feelings aside for a minute and do what's best for your baby. I know you have feelings for him and that's why it's so hard so just while you're going through it, don't think about the emotions of it. It doesn't seem like he helps out much so you shouldn't have too much more work to do baby-wise. Do you have someone who will let you stay with them for maybe 2 years? If I were you, at 2-3 I would put my kid in preschool and go back to work. And that would be when you can leave.
"Oh yeah and he goes out with other girls.... he goes out with one guy that brings 4 chicks and they have all gone out the past 4 times he went out."
Yeah, no. Bye.
H
Reading your other comments, you're making a lot of excuses to stay with him. Think about what's going to be best for you, your child, and the future. He's going to keep partying and going out until you do something about it. He might be the kid's father, but he's not acting like a dad.
Ch
I don't know he can't even change a poop diaper. I definitely don't want him to be around it but I also don't want him to grow up without a dad
H
Is he actually going to help you with the kid? Is this the environment you want that child growing up in?
Dump the chump.
Ke
Why not? I understand that it makes things more complicated but a child is not a "I'll stay and let you treat me like shit" free pass. If you're not happy, and he's clearly disrespectful, then GO. Do you have family who can help with the baby? Do you have a job to go back to? Does he pay for the house or do you? Theres no reason to be unhappy in a relationship. Child or not. I'm married to the best man I've ever met and we have 2 beautiful children, working on the 3rd and if for whatever reason we were not longer happy or one or the other of us were disrespecting the relationship, BYE!!!!! I'd be packed so fast, it would make your head spin. I love my husband and it would break my heart to leave him, but I'm not going to stay in a situation where I'm treated like garbage, and I wouldn't expect him to either.
Ch
we have a kid now I feel like it's not that easy?
Girl.... obviously he's not 22 in his head. If he can't get his act together and figure out that family is more important than hanging out with friends (especially on July 4!), Then maybe u should give him a wake up call and leave for a few days...don't let him keep u down girl...tell ur parents what's happening....I'm sure they'll take u in for a few days until "stimpy" gets his act together. Good luck
LM
You care so much about how he'll react but he obviously does not care how you'll feel or react to things he does, he's being selfish. Put you and your baby first, and give home a wake up call and leave, if he doesn't try to change then you know what you have to do.
Th
ya..but it might make him think about actually doing what he needs to do...
Ch
he will find me. unfortunately we live close to my parents and if I were to take my son with me he would freak out!!
Is clear...He doesn't not want a relationship with you. He wants no commitment. When a man wants to be with a woman he finds every moment available to him to make her feel loved and cared for.Do yourself and your baby a favor; focus on your child. Eventually you will find a man that shows you, treats you and respects you the way you deserve. Respect yourself and love yourself. Unfortunately, now you have to focus more on the baby. And honestly, a relationship like that would affect negatively the development of your child, he/she will suffer the consequences of you having a bad relationship with the dad. Is better for you that as a woman you keep him off of your life, but as a father he needs to e there for your child. Good luck 😌😄
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