Crib sleeping advice

So, my baby girl slept next to my bed for a long time and eventually we started cosleeping. She will be a year old this month and I'd like to get her to sleep in her own bed. She screams and throws tantrums when I put her in the crib. It doesn't matter what time of day or for how long she will not lay down. I've tried getting in the crib with her, but as soon as I get out she's wide awake and screaming. I turned her crib into a toddler bed and put it up against my bed. I can get her to fall asleep in it if I'm in it too and then I can roll into my bed, but as soon as she wakes up she's in my bed again. I've only had other mom's tell me to let her scream it out until she wears herself out and falls asleep. I'm really hoping I can find some other advice on here. I really don't want to let her scream it out because it breaks my heart and because my husband works 3rd shift so I wouldn't be able to put her in the crib screaming for nap time or in bed for the night until he goes to work at 10pm. She's usually ready for bed by 8pm.