How do I politely say no to a baby shower?
That title sounds crazy right? Who wouldn't love free gifts? Normally I would never turn down the opportunity, except for now because my mother-in-law wants to throw me one. I could really use help/advice from fellow mamas about what to do.
My mother-in-law and I have a very rocky relationship. We haven't spoken much in the past year over several fallings out. However, I have tried to reach out to her since, and she has never returned a phone call or text from me or my husband. We called her to tell her we were having a baby girl, and we haven't heard from her since. (I'm 29 weeks along)
Moreover, my siblings-in-law are constantly telling us all the negative things she says about us. Like wanting to throw the Mother's Day gift away that we gave her, and other petty comments. One was just last week.
Anyways, this shower she wants to throw me makes me feel extremely uncomfortable given all this negative tension between the two of us. I feel like I I say yes, then I'm just validating her not returning our phone calls and all of the negative comments she makes about us. However, I know if I reject her party, she'll get extrememly offended and drag the whole family into it, creating more drama.
Is there a polite way to say no, but not cause any issues? We clearly need to resolve our differences, but I don't think having a shower is the way to do that. Plus, she's going through a court/legal battles with her ex right now, so I'd prefer to hold off on solving our issues until her life has calmed down a bit.
Any advice or opinions are so appreciated 😊
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