Baby daddy DRAMA

Alright, so long story short me and my boyfriend made things official on December 16th of last year and I got knocked up on Christmas eve. Not the smartest move on either of our parts, nothing was planned but I'm now 7 months pregnant and my son is the biggest blessing to have happened to me. That being said, me and my "boyfriend" have not agreed on a single thing since I got pregnant. He lives in jersey and I live in New York, about an hour an a half distance which isn't too bad but just because we're having a baby I really don't feel like I have to jump up and move in with him. If I wasn't pregnant I wouldn't have moved in with him 7 months into our relationship, so I feel like me being pregnant doesn't have to change that.

He's pressuring me to move to jersey with him but I have my reasons for wanting to stay in New York. 1. I'm extremely close to my family. My family has been supporting me 1000x more than he has. I had to stop working because my pregnancy was very high risk and they have supported me 100%. 2. My dad is very sick to the point that we honestly don't know how long he has left. I don't want him to miss the opportunity of getting to know and spend time with his grandson and I don't want to be out of state and get a horrible phone call that something happened to him. 3. My dream since I was about 12 years old was to become a nurse and work at a specific hospital in New York because both of my grandmothers were treated in that hospital when they got terminally sick and I made a promise to both of them when they passed that I would follow my dreams of becoming a nurse and spending time with them in that specific hospital is where my dream started.

Other than all of that as I mentioned earlier me and him haven't been together very long and he hasn't been very supportive. He rarely comes to visit me, he hasn't helped with any of my medical bills or expenses since I am high risk and which he promised my dad he would do. All he does is argue with m and guilt trip me into moving to jersey with him and he doesn't even have his own apartment, he wants me to live in his mothers house with him. I honestly feel like every time we have a conversation we can never come to any kind of mutual agreement and all he's really done is stress me out. He makes promises that he NEVER keeps. He manipulates me into trying to get things his way and I would never keep him from his son once he's born but at the end of the day I don't think the relationship is going to last and I don't feel like I HAVE to move in with him or live with him just because there's a baby on the way but he doesn't see things like that.

Apparently he told his family months ago that I was definitely moving to Jersey which I never said and now that I'm trying to make it clear that I'm not they all think I'm "making excuses". Apparently they also have a problem with the fact that I haven't been working even though I haven't asked the father of my child for a single dollar. My family has paid for all of my medical bills and expenses, all of my maternity clothes and basically anything I've needed during this pregnancy so I don't see why me not working is his or anyone in his family's concern. He works a good paying job and works a lot of overtime hours but he someone claims that he's always "tight on money".

My baby shower is next week and it's being thrown by his mom and aunt at his aunts house in jersey and if the invitations hadn't already gone out I really would have just cancelled it. This baby shower is going to be so awkward and not fun for me at all and I'm dreading it more than anything. I just wish him and his family would stop stressing me out as much as they do and stop instigating shit with me.