Christian premarital sex??

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I am a Christian - brought up in a Christian home and I believe all of it even though as I'm 16 I've been having doubts recently. When my dad was seriously ill a few months ago I turned to God for help and just having someone there to talk to who always understands has really helped me.

Some of my friends at school have been having a lot of sex at parties etc. and nothing came of it - it seems pretty harmless from what I've heard. I haven't yet but I've definitely been tempted. I can kind of understand why you shouldn't have one night stands and stuff as a Christian but I don't get what the problem is in a long term relationship?

Having read an article a few days ago on how the Greek word for sexual immorality actually means like pedophilia and adultery and temple prostitution, I am extremely confused. As I start applying for uni soon everyone will be going out and taking drugs and having sex and everything, I want to know what is right. Also, Adam and <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> technically never even got married, and their children probably didn't either. This confuses me. Has anyone dug deeper into what the Bible means regarding sex??

Having always been brought up to believe all sex outside marriage is wrong, I would probably hate myself afterwards. I don't know if this is just me being not ready or if it is morally wrong?? I'm so so confused - can someone shed some light???? (Well done for reading this far by the way!!)

Please don't hate - I'm just looking for advice here.

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You might get better responses posting this in one of the Christian groups on this app. 
Adam and Eve are where we get the institution of marriage- theirs was the first. The Faith teaches that all sex outside of marriage is fornication, which is sinful. God made sexual union Holy through the sacrament of marriage, therefore anything outside it or in violation of it is sinful, for even married couples are called to chastity to keep the marriage bed undefiled. Sex is a wonderful and beautiful thing and one of the many beautiful things about marriage. Paul says that the person who gives this gift to his or her spouse will do well but the person who gives this gift back to God (becoming a monk or nun) will do better.

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God made us to be one man and one woman for life. As we are made in His image, this is a picture of Christ and His bride, the church. Paul states in his letters that fornication (sex before marriage) is a sin and those of the sinful nature cannot enter the Kingdom of God and Jesus used Genesis scripture as a reference to how God designed marriage "the two shall become one, what God has put together, let no man separate." Sex is a sacred act designed to bond us to our lifelong partner. Apparently, new research has found that women carry the DNA of every man they sleep with and science has long known that sex releases a bonding chemical called oxytocin that binds us to our partners. The same chemical that is released when we have our babies and breastfeed them. Sex was designed to be one man, one woman, for life.

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Just because your friends are having sex and not getting into trouble doesn't mean you won't. From your post it seems like your parents will care a lot. Before you do it educate yourself on both female and male reproductive systems. How one gets pregnant. What is a cycle etc. Get your self on Birth control (BC) for at least a month. Never do it with out a condom. There is always a chance of pregnancy. As for college the groups of people are much more diverse. You don't have to hang out or even socialize with people who part do drugs or have sex. Especially at a larger college. 
For picking a college Liberty University in VA is a Christian college. And use NICHE to find your perfect match. 
Good luck to you and personally I would wait. Wish I did and I'm almost 21. Lost it at 20

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There's a big difference between head faith and heart faith. Head faith tells you sin is bad and you need to obey Gods law. Heart faith cannot stand the thought of sinning against God. Heart faith desires to do His will. 1 John is a great read for those who are examining themselves (like the Bible tells us to). We need to make our calling and election sure. 
It sounds like you might be trying to rationalize these temptations. It's an easy trap to fall into. Just remember, Satan comes to steal, kill and destroy... he is a great deceiver. Don't fall for it girl. Gods word has the answers your looking for. Start there.

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Please read this article https://cccdiscover.com/9-bible-verses-that-teach-that-sex-before-marriage-is-a-sin/

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I just got married last month bc my now husband found the holy spirit in him randomly one day, he said we are living together and having sex and it's wrong so we got married immediately... a lot of people would say that's crazy but committing adultery is very wrong. The point of following the 10 commandments is to avoid all of those temptations. Now of course I got married to man I lost my virginity to but I still had sex before marriage therefore I sinned, badly. My husband has been with plenty of women and knows God is very forgiving of that since he did indeed ask for forgiveness. Of course God can tell the difference between something that is sincere and what isn't. So if you do go partying and having premarital sex and whatnot and say "well I'm gonna marry this guy anyways" or "I'll just ask for forgiveness later" he knows what you're doing. Temptation is the devils work. If you talk to the right people and stick around people who aren't falling into the sin of the world then you may not have that temptation. Of course live your life and do whatever you please, God gave us free will after all. Just remember that everyone sins, but God knows the difference between who's sincere and who's not. Pray about it, okay? God loves you no matter what. Talk to someone you trust. Read the bible word for word about what it says regarding sex before marriage and adultery. Right now you're young and trying to find curve balls to what the bible is telling you, that's the Devils work, just try to do the right thing.

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Sex is marriage. It's what God created for Man and Woman to become one. Think about it like this, you should want to be married to one person. If you have sex now with this person you think is always going to be there and then they eventually leave your going to be upset. Sex creates soul ties and soul ties are like I said the marriage of your soul to another. Soul-ties are hard to get rid of. That's why the bible says we should be married first. You don't want to be married to a lot of people. If you get what I'm saying. Its a struggle, trust me I know. But God wouldn't give us something we couldn't handle. Remember patience is a virtue. True men of God are looking for virtuous women.

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Anonymous is not allowed in CC. There is also a Christian support group in the community of you search the groups. 
   
From a historical context you need to understand that people stayed in monogamous relationships in patriarchal societies to have their child be recognized. Since birth control wasn't available or understood, children out of marriage were considered useless and unreasonable to many families. Having a child with a father to recognize them would have been a crucial for survival and success. This is very particular to Christianity in the medieval to modern periods.

From a word origin, I have no idea how they came to that conclusion. That really doesn't make sense. The word pedophilia comes from the Greek: παῖς, παιδός (paîs, paidós), meaning "child", and φιλία (philía), "friendly love" or "friendship". Pedophilia is used for individuals with a primary or exclusive sexual interest in prepubescent children aged 13 or younger.
   
The Greek words for sex would be more closely related to fornicate. “Porneia,” as used in the New Testament, has a milieu involving the use the word in Classical Greek, in the Septuagint (LXX), in the Intertestamental period, in Koine Greek, and in Patristic Greek. Looking at these linguistic periods it appears that the word is primarily used for “fornication”, both within and without marriage. The LXX uses it predominately for the Hebrew word “zanah”—”commit fornication, be a harlot.” This is sexual involvement with humans or false gods. Israel is the bride of God and “fornication” (idolatry) with other gods affects the relationship. (See the minor prophet Hosea who is told to retrieve his unfaithful wife out of harlotry as an image of God’s care for apostate Israel.)
   
From a theological perspective I can answer you... the Bible is very clear on adultery, or fornication outside of marriage, being a sin. But the bottom line is people are dumb and make a lot of mistakes, intent plays a large roll in this. Jesus was sent to save us when we stay and didn't put contiguous on that. 
   
If your intent is to find someone you plan to spend the next 80-/+ years with and part of that is sexual compatibility, I don't personally think having sex with someone you are committed to is worse than divorce for the reason of sexual incompatibility. If your intent is to fit in, there is a very good chance you will regret your decisions at some point.

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◄ 1 Corinthians 7 ►
King James Bible
Teachings on Marriage
1Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

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Sexual temptation was probably the hardest temptation for me to deal with as a teenager. The truth is premarital sex is a sin and, as with any other sin, it should be avoided. I really respect and admire the people who do wait for marriage because it's soooo hard to do. However, if you're afraid that God will hate you or that your salvation will be in jeopardy if you have premarital sex, rest assured, God will still love you and you will still be saved. In the Bible, when people sinned, God punished them but he always loved them and their salvation was never in jeopardy. Take for example when David and Bathsheba slept together, even though, she  was married
 to another man. Bathsheba became pregnant and the baby died as punishment for  their sin. Even so, David was very much loved by God.  Whether one sin or a thousand will not damn you to hell, but every sin does bring a consequence. You just have to  decide what is more important serving God, no matter what the cost, and receiving your blessing for it or fitting in with  your friends and possibly facing a very much unwanted consequence. God should always come first, in my opinion. The blessings are always bigger than the sacrifices. I am 30 years old  now and I did not wait til marriage. Nothing seriously bad happened, but I do feel  guilty because I made a promise to God to wait til marriage and I didn't. God deserved more than that from me because he has given me so much in my life. I regret what I did and I honestly believe you will to. At least try to wait. Try really hard!

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