how do i do this?

im probably being crazy or thinking too much into this when i say this but why is it that many times guys never seem to understand that having a relationship with someone requires you to make active attempts to be a couple and connect on a deeper level. These last couple of weeks ive been feeling a little bit ignored/ pushed to the side. my boyfriend has at pine tine or another chose to hang out with friends or certain peipke he considers close enough to be family and not once asked if i wanted to maybe join u. Even if you thought i may not want to go along it shows me you still are thinking of me and offered. We haven't been on any actual date with just us in months. some may think they are dates because we went out to a restaurant to eat but me, u, and kids is not a date. Its classified more as family dinner because in those settings theres no time to romantically connect with each other and enjoy one another's presence. Either we are too busy trying to keep kids entertained, making sure little timmy doesnt play with their food, or even making sure we actually eat something besides gold fish and a slice of bread woke trying to keep up with these children. i have even made attempts to make a makeshift date (eitger at home early before kids wake up or after children are asleep) and he seems to not remember that was our plan or will decide to change it last minute. Its fine i know i cant exist things to always work out how they used to. i know at times things slip a persons mind and im okay and understanding that yhings come up and needing time to socialize with friends is important... but i want to be reminded that you haven't forgotten me at least once in the month. even if its as simple as bringing me home a piece of my favorite candy or making me something or even sending me a song or video ir picture that reminded you of me. I know I should sit down and talk with my partner about my feelings but im not sure how to start out the conversation anyone have any tips?