Would you date someone with kids and you didnt have any?

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I personally would not. Call me selfish but I want all the attention and I would like for it to be our first child together. I'd have to really really REALLY click with the guy if he had kids.

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I don't really want kids so it will be pretty difficult from the start. Not sure I could do it

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Nah kids are a deal breaker. So is someone who wants kids in the future. I have no desire or intention to be a mother, so if someone wants kids, I ain't the girl for them 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I never want kids so it'd be a hard no for me. I don't want kids in my life

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Yes I would! I've always loved kids, and if he/she is a great parent that can only be a plus in my book. Yes, I understand that I wouldn't get as much attention, that kids are a lot of work, and that sometimes exs aren't amiable co parents; I can deal with that.

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I'm not gonna miss out on the one just because I don't like kids. If I'm really into this guy and I know I can make it work, I'm gonna make it work.

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Yea idc about somebody's family. I like kids anyways. 
It's also a really good way to gauge his of character. If he has a kid and a baby mama you can tell what kinda man he is by seeing how he treats her, her family, and how much he actively tries to be in his kid's life and tries to be a good, mature, and nurturing coparent.

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My SO has a daughter of his own, and now we're pregnant with our own baby! His daughter is VERY excited (she's only six) but sadly lives about eight hours away with her mother and step father. He sees her through scheduled visitation, and actually she will be in town in about five days for another visit!  My SO is actually very excited for our baby because he feels he will "be able to do it right this time" because he didn't make the best choices when his other daughter was born.. He is a wonderful person and father and I wouldn't ask for anything different! Plus, my first baby will already have a sibling, so that's just more love my little baby will get!!

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I feel like if I'd really fallen for them I might, and I used to flirt/go on dates with a couple guys who I knew had kids, but honestly, I did end up backing out because I love kids, but I think it'd be too hard for me to try and step in and not be ran over. I want my children to be my first with my (hopefully current) boyfriend. Then again, if I was older and single, maybe I would. Just not now while I'm still young.

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If I could do thins differently I wouldn't. I'm a step mother to 2, they were 4 and 6 when I met my husband and they're now 17 and 19  While I love them the same as my own belly fruit, the stress and heartache and fights that's happened from having a partner with baggage ( the baby momma not the children) and the kids adjusting, it was just too much. But I was already involved and attached.

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It would depend on the situation and the stage I'm in in my life. Currently, I'm not ready for kids at all so I would never even consider it. In a number of years maybe. But I also will not deal with a mother of the children- there's just way too much drama normally. Maybe when I'm significantly older and had kids myself then it'd be different. But I want to have kids that I can raise my way and I don't want to compete (not that I'd try to tale her place, but so many mothers are just horrible to the step mum) with her. I'd find that just too difficult for me to handle. If the mother was not in the picture then I'd be more open to it (again not now, but in a few years possibly) as I'd be the mum standing in for their mother. I'd just find it easier, especially since I want my own kids and would want all kids in the house to be raised and treated the same way. 
Thankfully, I'm engaged to a man with no kids. So it's not a problem for me. But I know that I just couldn't do it.

Would you date someone with kids and you didnt have any?

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