need real life advice

I don't want to get to into it but my parents are very controlling and treat my like shit a lot of the time and put my other siblings before me very often. i cry almost every night about the way i am treated and i feel as if they are only proud of me when i'm doing something they can show off (if that makes sense) but anyways they moved me to another state and are very controlling and won't let me pick where i go to college (i'm a sophomore in college and tried a year of school here like they asked and hated it) but my boyfriend lives back where i use to and we've been doing distance for a year but dating for two. he loves me and always takes care of me and we talk about marriage all the time and he wants me to. come live with him and do life together and it sounds amazing but my parents say if i move in with him before marriage they'll disown me and cut me off... if you were in this situation what would you do.

ALSO sometimes it's great and me and my family get along and i love them and want their support with everything but it's mostly bad we fight and argue and i hate where they moved me but they won't let me leave but i just love them and want their approval so it's just hard