DNS Role-play Gone Wrong

My BF and I have been trying out this DNS (Dominance and Submission) role-play out and I swear he's got it all backwards! It is always me (and just me) getting dressed up in authoritative wear and immediately goes into what he likes to think of as his "punishment" which is him getting ass-fucked for the next hour. He then rolls over and wants me to suck him off. Srsly?!

Now, I've no problem playing the Punisher role, but as the Dominatrix, shouldn't my pleasure precede his own? If ass-fucking is what he really wants, shouldn't THAT be the reward and not the punishment, meaning shouldn't he have to earn it?

I envisioned it more like a whip-carrying, crotchless, leather-clad and tits out role going more like, "Get in the kitchen and make me a meal, bitch! and make sure you clean up after yourself. Now come over here and take your clothes off so I can straddle you while you feed me and let's see who orgasms first!" No you say? Swap! I guess someone doesn't want a good ass-fucking tonight eh?! Swap! Swap!! Maybe you just want to watch me and the beast (vibrator) getting off, huh?! Swap! Swap!! Swap!!!

Or something more like that, right?! Hahaha!

I mean, srsly, Why should I have to do ALL of the work without any pleasure of my own? How can I (lovingly) sway his perception my way?