I am completely overwhelmed right now. I really do love my husband. But he's not behaving like the man he is or should be. I've posted a couple times now… At nine weeks pregnant announced to me that he wasn't happy is thinking about divorce. We bought a house in planned for this baby. This took me by total surprise. We've had our ups and downs. I've never expected her marriage to be perfect. I don't expect him to be perfect. But I do expect him to treat me with respect and be willing to talk out issues when they arise. I didn't know he was so unhappy. He didn't tell me. We're going to marriage counseling. He said he'll go to individual counseling he hasn't signed up yet. I genuinely think he suffers from depression and our therapist believes it to. We had a marriage counseling session yesterday it was a rough one. We had gotten into a disagreement the night before. Right now every little fight results and him retreating sleeping in another room. In counseling he pointed out that I sometimes referred to him as "kid". Like when I'm telling a story about him I'll say "this "kid" oh my gosh he did this....". I've been thinking a lot about that. The therapist asked me if I thought he was capable. I've been thinking a lot about it since she asked. The answer is he is capable but he is does not always choose act like an adult. I think I've slowly lost respect for my husband. His juvenile behavior of retreating away from the problem and not talking it out disgusts. I end up thinking how cowardly he is.

On Monday of this week he came home from work in the middle the day went straight into his man cave and slammed the door. He didn't say a word to me wouldn't talk to me. I reached out to his supervisor I asked her if something had happened. She said nothing particular had happened. But that he's not doing well at work and she had made her expectations clear to him. Later I got him to calm down so Monday night was a good night. We had a nice day on Tuesday and then we got into a disagreement about an Instagram picture that resulted in him sleeping downstairs. The pettiest things set him off right now…. We were supposed to announce her pregnancy on Tuesday night to our parents. Instead we slept in separate rooms. Wednesday night we had plans to meet up with her friends we are going to announce her pregnancy to them. We have a counseling session in the morning. I texted him and asked him if he still wanted to meet up at our friends that evening he said yes. His supervisor took him aside before he was supposed to leave office to come meet us to talk to him about what's going on. She recognizes that there is a problem. And that this is not a recent problem. She asked him what can she do to help him meet his goals. I got a text message as I'm sitting at the table waiting for him to arrive saying "I'm not coming you told my boss about me coming home" at first I did not know what he was talking about. He wouldn't respond to the rest my text messages. I called the office his boss picked up. She again reassured me that everything was fine. She said he's not in trouble that she's just worried about him. She bailed on me and our friends. I didn't end up announcing the pregnancy because why would I do it without him… he sleeping downstairs. He's telling me I smother him. I can't help but think that his response to anyone criticizing him or offering help is that they are smothering him. I know his bosses style. I'm sure she approached him frankly and calmly. I'm just so disappointed in him right now. I'm disappointed that he couldn't play his own ego aside and show up for me at the dinner when I needed him. I'm disappointed that he can't own his own failures at work and try to improve. I'm disappointed that he can't own his mistakes at home and move forward. He says he still willing to go to counseling to explore whether or not this can work…

I don't want to waste anymore time. Six months from now I'll have a baby in my arms. I'll only have time for one child. I need a partner. I know he can be that Man.

But he has to want it. I don't understand what he's going through right now…

I keep wondering if I should just call it now and kick him out. This divorce will devastate both of us financially. Or how much longer should I work for this marriage?

I'm truly heartbroken. I love him. I love our baby. I love the life that we are supposed to have together. I don't understand why all he's so willing to throw it all away.

*** FYI for those who were saying it was inappropriate for me to contact his supervisor. He has a job that is very stressful. And built into the instruction are procedures for spouses to report unusual behavior. His supervisor is aware that he's been dealing with additional stress. I would not have contacted her if it wasn't for his extreme distress in my genuine concern for his well-being***