so I met a guy recently offline and he's fabulous. we've been talking for a month and met at the beach. he's so easygoing, nice, hardworking, has his life together, new car, own apartment, estranged from his dad and his mom died when he was young. were both early 20's. we have a lot of similarities and interests.

after the beach I wound up going back with him to his apartment (honestly to my surprise but my intuition was telling me he's fine) and we hung out and talked and had dinner and he told me he's recently divorced- 6 months from someone he dated 3 years and was married to for over 1. i didn't ask why because I thought it'd be rude so soon.

we wound up hanging out again recently and wound up holding hands, which turned into kissing and everything besides sex. oh my! I'd call it making love instead of sex because it was magical. when I left we held hands and he walked me to my car and we kissed again.

so now I'm not too sure what we are- and not sure how to ask or what to do next.... any advice?

I was thinking of saying how I care about him as a person and don't want either of us to have different expectations down the road, etc. but feel it's odd to literally ask "what are we?" because I'm not expecting him to want to be in a relationship- although he did say he's finally starting to date again the time we hung out prior to us kissing.

and it's strange. because I really do like him, so I don't want to loose him either as a friend or relationship. but at the same time having sex with someone I'm not dating just feels weird/ kind if upsets me as it doesn't go against my morals but its like personally conflicting... perhaps in part because I've never just hooked up with someone, but it doesn't feel like a hookup.

any advice?