communication problems

my boyfriend and I live almost an hour apart and we always bicker and argue about we fight maybe ever 2 days or so. he's a cancer and I'm a Gemini so I know we butt heads a bit because of that but is there anyway we can work on our communication skills. I've tried telling him we need to talk instead of fight about things and he gets it but when things actually get bad he basically says screw talking and goes right into starting an argument ... please help?