So I recently commented on someone's post who was raped and she asked for advice. I gave her my advice based on my personal experience. While my advice wasn't the normal you have to report it so he goes to jail speach It was sound advice. I told her she didn't remember much and since he used protection there wasn't much to investigate so if she chooses to report it that it probably wouldn't go anywhere. Since this I have been attacked and treated like because I was raped something must be wrong with me mentally. How could I possibly tell this poor girl the truth? How could I not fill her full of hope. It's simple because I was filled with hope and it went no where. It hurt more then being raped being told they couldn't do anything. So I will tell you this. Just because someone was raped doesn't mean they are damaged, it doesn't mean they are in need of counseling and therapy (sometimes it helps), it doesn't mean that I am wrong for seeing this different or wrong. So stop treating them like it. I'm so tired of this. Stop filling these girls head full of false hope. Yes sometimes it does work. Yes sometimes they go to jail. I am not saying it's worthless to ever report it. In fact I encourage it. But don't think it means they will go to jail. After reading several posts I realised I confused a lot of people. The only part of this that was about the other girl and my advice to her "she was so drunk and remember so little that despite reporting it or might not put him away and to take that into consideration when reporting." The rest of this post was about how someone preceved me and treated me based on my views and feeling. I had someone assume I was damaged and that I should have been in love long counseling because I had all these problems steaming from my rape. I also did not mean that women shouldn't go to counseling or that counseling didn't help or tgat women shouldn't feel like a victim despite the rape. They have every right to. I did go to counseling and a phyc ward and learned to cope with what happened and it angers me when people assume I am still damaged and that I should some how be a victim for my whole life because of what happened 8 years ago. I really hope it is clearer now.