Adoption???

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I want what's best for the baby,and I can't give her what she needs I'm 30 weeks pregnant (15 years old) didn't agree with abortion so that's why I didn't have one,my mum thinks I should keep her,but I can't,really don't know what to do

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No one can make that decision for you. All I can say is that if you don't think you can provide for her, please consider giving her to a loving family. There are many couples that can't conceive and could give your daughter a great life. That being said, you need to do what you feel in your heart is best. Maybe consider an open adoption, which allows you to see her but not have as many responsibilities. I'm sure it's not easy having to make to this decision.  Good luck and listen to your heart.

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I've got to be honest here. I've been reading this post for hours now trying to figure out how to word my reply. So I'm just gonna reply with my story and the best advice I can give. I found out ON my 15th birthday that I was pregnant. I was TERRIFIED. I sat in my bathroom floor crying for hours. I didn't know what to do. But I knew from the get go that abortion wasn't an option. My daddy found out his baby girl was no longer a virgin by finding out she was pregnant. I hid that I was pregnant the remaining part of my freshman year and went into my sophomore year 9 months pregnant. My dad never spoke negatively to me but you could tell he was devastated. On the other hand, My mom was very harsh to me. When she came around she told me that she would help me in every way possible as well as my dad would as long as I didn't give up and I finished school. I ended up working a part time job and graduated from high school with a precious almost 2 year old little boy by my side. Here I am 24 years old. With not just one child but with THREE. My oldest son will be 9 next month. I know you only want what's best for your precious baby but you have already given your baby that... you're giving that baby LIFE!!! There's not a day that goes by that even after 3 babies I'm not still terrified. I am constantly worrying about them and worrying about them having the best life possible by at the end of the day I know that the best possible thing for them is to know how much they are loved. I cannot sit here and tell you to give your baby away and I cannot sit here and tell you to keep your baby because only YOU as that baby's mommy will know what is best. All that I ask of you if to please please please weigh your options. It will be hard and challenging and being a parent is one of the hardest jobs in this entire world but it is also the absolute most amazing job in this entire world.

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The best thing for your baby is a stable, loving home. Unless your mom is willing to support you both financially and help take care of the baby, then adoption is certainly what's best for your baby. What a great gift to both your baby and a loving family who desperately want and are prepared for a baby.

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Do what you thinks best

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Do what's right for you, weigh out your options, and make the decision for yourself.

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If your mom is willing to help you until you finish school and you want this baby keep it!! I did and I was 15 my son is 14 now and it was the best decision I ever made!! Now if you really don't want to then adoption is a wonderful thing.

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Hi hun. I was in your sistaion in 2002 with no support from the father still in high school and no money. my mother was in the picture but could barley take care of my two younger brothers so it was hard. I actually wanted to have an abortion but was told not to by my mother which made things confusing cause she couldn't help me. long story short I did have my mother in the picture and my two brothers. I ended up taking my GED not that you should do that I just decided that I wanted to work full-time so that I could support my baby. well all these years later and I have a beautiful 14 year old daughter just follow your heart and do what you think is going to be best there may be struggles but in the end it's what you feel is right. whatever you decide is definitely going to be difficult it's not an ideal situation but you can make it work I wish you lots of luck to you and your family🙏

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Just want to tell you how brave you are - if you decide to keep the baby - you are going to make one heck of a mom.  With that said, if your mother is willing to help you with the baby and help to support you, then maybe you should keep her.  If not, then do what you think is best for you and the baby.  You're going to be fine no matter what.  God Bless us all.

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Is your mom willing to help out with the costs of the baby until you financially can provide?

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You are so brave. I hope you know that. Go with your heart and do what you feel is best for you and your baby. You are the only one who can make that decision. Explore all your options. Find what resources are available to you if you choose to parent.
With that said, if you decide adoption is the best route, my husband and I are home study approved and looking to adopt. We have been married 10 years. We have an 8 year old biological daughter and a 6 year old adopted son. Feel free to reach out to me, even just as one supportive mom to another :) melissa.lally4@gmail.com or 717-503-0578

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