So my partner is going to the hospital (he's a lil mental) for a week or so to get his medication straightened out and have some time of solace but my anatomy scan is scheduled for Wednesday. He's going to the hospital today (Tuesday). He desperately wants to be the first one to know the sex of the baby and wants me to reschedule the appointment for when he gets out..the problem with that is I've been waiting so long for this moment and I already started prenatal care a little late so I feel eager to have doctors looks at my baby and see if everything is developing properly, it's not just about the gender for me. He tells me "it would mean th world to me if you reschedule" i told him I'll see but i really don't want to.

What I planned to do was tell him I couldn't reschedule and explain to him how it's not just about the gender but also to make sure the body parts are developing properly, and just have the doctor/technician write down the gender and put it in an envelope and we open it together when he gets out. Does that sound like a better compromise? Or am I being selfish for not rescheduling? Advice needed.

Side note about our history: for a while he petitioned for me to have an abortion. Since then he's stepped up and has been really supportive and happy to have a baby. But I don't know how I feel about him trying to take precedence of knowing the gender FIRST over my mom who has supported me since the very beginning and never told me to do anything I didn't want to do. I'm a FTM is it normal for Husbands or partners to feel the need to want precedence? Is it wrong if I gave him precedence over my mom and sisters?