What would you do if you got cheated on by the man you loved?

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They say a strangers advice is the best advice... and I have no friends. lol 
So, I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. We've been seeing one another since March. Made it official 2 months ago. We've been through a hell of a lot already since March.. so I need advice..
He lives with his parents at the moment and his children's mother of 3 also lives there.... of course I'm not okay with this, I moved to the town he lives in and we have been planning to find a place together. (why I moved here) of course this shit has been tough ... I chose to trust him and his word and I try to see the best in every person so I trusted him when he told me the two of them weren't anything and would never be again. He stays with me every night and she does know about me. Including his family. Her and I have spoke and met and all.. well, about 2 weeks ago after moving here, he slept with her... I didn't find out about this until today... he told me before I had the opportunity to find out on my own. He told me he was very confused and that's why he did it and gave me the spill on how she means nothing and it didnt mean anything... I've seen their conversations and he does tell her to basically fuck off he's with me, we post pics together on FB and she see's those too... so it's no secrete I exist. He's now going on and on about how awful he feels about what he did and saying he'll do whatever it takes to earn my trust. (I know right) 
So now I'm sitting here baffled.. confused and I absolutely have not a clue on what to do. 
I moved almost an hour away for this man, changed everything about my life to start a future with this one guy who betrayed me ... he wants his kids in his life so that's his excuse why she's there other then her having no where to go. and me being an understanding mother myself, i look at the kids best interest. so with that being said, making their mommy homeless seemed heartless and stress he didnt need either with her already threatening to take his kids from him. 
I seriously have no idea what the right thing to do is. 
I'm in desperate need of advice.. I feel like something is wrong with me. Why me?... what would you do ?

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Cheating is unacceptable no matter the "excuse" given. I also wouldnt have moved when the relationship was only 2 months official seems too quick to me. But either way i would leave. And what would happen to the mom and kids when you guys get a place is she going to stay at his parents? Thats weird. But beside the point. I do not ever put up with cheating. Once a cheater always a cheater in my mind.

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It sounds like you got caught in a whirlwind of a relationship! So much lust! But I think if there's this much trouble so early on, I'd let it go while it's still early

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nope leave sorry it happened he is an adult no excuse especially oh i was confused thats just bullshit

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If he is cheating after only 2 months of being together then that should be all you need to know. Also with he Dane girl living with him that he cheated with, is going to happen again and more than likely they probably haven't stopped having sex with each other.

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Well.. He made a mistake, but you made a mistake before his. Moving for someone and changing your entire life for someone you've only known or been with for 2 months? For someone with a messy life/past.. hmm definitely not the brightest decision. If you want to stay with him and sincerely believe it was a one time mistake than I'd start rebuilding he trust. It's a difficult situation for sure, I hope you can make some better decisions in your future. Sounds selfish, but you should only be looking out for yourself. This is YOUR life.

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Leave now before you get more invested. 2 months in and he's already cheating ? With his children's mother at that . Someone who will always be around. I don't think it's worth the headache

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also, would you all go to her and ask her yourself ? my only worry is this woman has lied to me before and done some crazy ass shit in front of me.. like dropping her kids off at my house before I even met them and told me she was gonna kill.herself and was gonna put me in the will that my bf and I were a family now..
but then again, I feel like maybe just maybe her crazy ass might tell me the truth. And I know, this is beyond a messed up situation..

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Its been 7 months or so of us "seeing one another" yes. I feel dumb as shit for jumping.. I definitely will be making better decisions.. and yes. She's apparently planning on moving out. idk anymore ... I feel dumb and confused.

What would you do if you got cheated on by the man you loved?

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