So my two-week old daughter is the first grandchild in my family and DH's. It was a rough pregnancy and thank goodness she arrived healthy. The issue I'm having is that my widowed MIL - who is already super clingy with my hubby - is acting very much like this new baby is hers. She goes on and on about how much she will be in my baby's life. She's also acted very competitive where my mother is concerned, and turned this into a competition between grandmother's. The truth is, all of this is scaring the heck out of me, and I find myself feeling so possessive towards my baby. My MIL acts like she is something to "possess", rather than a human being. I'm feeling threatened - whether it's wrong or right to feel this way. I know for a fact that my MIL doesn't like me, and I worry that she will eventually try to "brainwash" my daughter against me. She has a tendency to shower children and people with gifts. Can kids be bought? I know this sounds crazy, but the whole situation is making me SO depressed and my hubby loves his mother to death, especially since she's a widow, and will never even entertain my fears. My question for all the mom's out there (and maybe this is really silly), but how bonded to me will my baby be as she grows? I've been breastfeeding so far, and feel like I need some reassurance that my daughter will bond with me more than her grandmother! Do kids always bond with their mother's in an obvious way compared to other significant family members?