TTC is so depressing

This month we thought we would try to not worry about TTC, like everyone says. "Stop worrying and it will happen". Yeah I don't believe that. We just had fun, didn't use opk. Only opened app to log BD. And AF still showed up. We did it plenty of times in the FW. It's now officially been 1 year of trying, 1 ectopic in that time as well. I feel like there is something wrong with me. I have no one I know that has issues getting pregnant.