How To Become More Experimental???

Question

Need some advice:
First a little background. My husband and I waited to have sex till marriage. Been together since we were 16, married at 22, and now we're 25yrs old. I come from a very conservative, traditional family. Mine and my husbands sex life is very satisfying, but pretty basic. We are about to have our first baby, and when I recover, I want to come back to our sex life sexier/more fun/more daring than ever. 
My issue is that I can't get past my own mind to get kinky. I am barely able to give him head, cumming in my mouth is out of the question and thinking if anal just freaks me out. I want to do these things for him more than anything tho! 
And telling me to focus on how much it pleasures him doesn't work for me. So just please don't. 
Is there anyone out there who came from a similar background? How do I loosen up and relax? What advice do y'all have for getting more experimental, or making the specifically mentioned things above easier?

Answer

Don't pressure yourself to be into the stuff you aren't into. Instead, aim for just a tiny bit more exciting than usual. A little bit out of your comfort zone, but in a "I'm a little nervous in an exciting way because it's new and I don't know how it'll go" way, not in an "eeeeek gross scary yeeck" way. 
I am a fan of sending sexy text messages. For a lot of people it's less scary than saying something out right. Maybe start by saying/writing something to your husband that is flirty and sexy, but the content of which isn't outside of what you guys normally do. "I can't wait to do xyz with you" or "I can't stop thinking about the time you xyz and then I..."  So play with that for a while. And then amp it up--suggest some activity just outside what you normally do. Or it could be a normal activity in a new location. Or a normal activity plus a blindfold or something. Whatever you think might be fun. If it's hard to say it / write it, you could browse some softcore sex photo tumblr pages and save a picture or two of things you'd like to try (not out-there things, just a half step above things you already do) and send or show him the pictures. 
Personally I find talking or texting about sex things we'd like to do in the future (at a time when we can't immediately do them) to be tons of fun. It builds a lot of excitement and tension, so even if the content you're talking about is only the same stuff you always do, once you have the opportunity to have sex, it's waaay more exciting. And it's easy to amp things up slowly by incorporating into the conversation a bit of fantasy / things you haven't tried yet.
Anyway. Start small. Don't pressure yourself. Have fun. Things may build to that scary stuff eventually, or not. But chances are they'll build in some fun direction or other!

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some of what you listed is like, the total other end of the spectrum. anal is pretty hardcore. I can't do the texture of cum, so that's been a no go for over 20 years for us.
try different positions. im amazed at how few women do anything but missionary  or girl on top. doggy is great, so is reverse cowgirl. do oral. you can still go down on him without him blowing in your mouth. give him a bj with you leaning over him, or while on your knees. you can lie back while he goes down on you, sit on his face, get on hands and knees.
introduce some toys, sexy lingerie. wear lipstick. flavored lubes. go to a sex shop together and pick something out.
if you're up for it, watch porn together to get some ideas. keep it minimal to keep it exciting. set boundaries (imo). we only watch it together. no solo stuff going on in our relationship. there's plenty to do without going "extreme".

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to have more fun giving head, try things to make the idea you're sacking a penis less noticeable. by that I mean, you can't really hide that fact but take your mind off it, your mouth is the part of you doing it so your mouth needs some distraction and an enjoyable reason to keep licking and sucking.  Try flavors and textures: for one thing there are all kinds of flavored lubes to try. but for another there are always the kinky condiments around the house. try things like some good raw honey, your favorite kind of chocolate sauce and or whipped cream. get crative. you could even try smearing his twinky in frosting and add a few sprinkles. just be gentle with those sprinkles on that area. You may even be able to make yourself a little more comfortable about swallowing but just take it slow and have fun playing anyway.

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Experiment with porn. First watch some by yourself, like a preview. Then view it with your husband. It could spice up things. Otherwise try lingerie or karma sutra books.

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