Can't forgive him

My boyfriend has changed a lot!! He's a no show up, or always late, non romantic. I told him and we discussed this. He even postponed our date an hour and didn't showed up, saying that he fell asleep and then he said he had clinical depression.

I also have clinical depresión and I don't have a job, or a fancy job like him. I'm job less when he has a job.

Am I overreacting?? I don't like disrespect, I had trouble putting boundaries. I don't have close friends. And my two boys that are my best friends didn't say much, they said flow with it.

My mom has cero boundaries, I never saw any affection between my parents. But he cheated on her a lot and I was verbal and physically abusive with us. So she can't put personal boundaries