How do I tell my fiancé?

Question

So I have really bad anxiety. Like where I worry constantly about him and everything. He tries to tell me to "just tell my brain to stop." He says I can control it I'm just not trying hard enough. He's not mean about it but it still hurts. How can I explain to him that I really cannot help it? How'd you explain it to your SO?

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Either a you can get some literature and educate him, let the dr educate him, or dump him for having zero empathy or understanding when it comes to anxiety and mental illness

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Telling someone that you can control your anxiety & you're not trying hard enough is not okay. Imo he isn't trying to help you, he's just an ass. Your feelings should never be invalidated, even if he has gone through anxiety himself doesn't mean what worked for him will work for you. Although in most cases, people who say these types of things haven't gone through it themselves,they just think they know best. You could tell him how it makes you feel or even get a doctor to educate him but he may not change his way of thinking.

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Sam Harris Waking Up, helped my control and reduce my anxiety and depression because through meditation, it showed me that I do have control over my thoughts to an extent. By doing little things that forced me out of my comfort zone, when all I wanted to do was stay in and hide, my anxiety gradually loosened it's hold on me day by day. I haven't had an anxiety attack recently because of it. Maybe your boyfriend is just trying to help you.

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His pushing will eventually help you my husband was like that when I was ill too and pushed me to do simple tasks like taking children to school even when my heart felt like it was beating out of my chest and I was sweating in winter but I got there and so will you

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Have a dr explain it to him

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