Is he in the wrong? or am I..

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so.. my fiancé and i have been together 3 years have a 1 year old together.. and we have been having current issues relating to family.. my cousin who rarely spends time with me or sees me (yet lives very close lol 5 min away) tends to be more affectionate that others you could say as we grew up together as little kids living together! one day while i was using the restroom he came in & just got in the tub & started washing his feet.. i said nothing and just carried on obviously still trying to be discreet. today he saw me and while i was doing the dishes he came behind me & started giving me hugs and said how he misses me he squeezed my cheeks after and gave me a kiss on both cheeks. this all infuriated my fiancé i just feel torn between both my family that i made and my cousin who i grew up with as a brother.. i can't help but feel confused af. is he in the wrong for getting so pissed and worked up over nothing? or am i wrong for letting my grown cousin act this way?

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My cousin and I were very close I thought of him as a brother trusted him did everything with him... until one night all of us cousins were sleeping in the same room. There weren't enough beds so I let him sleep in mine... he molested me. I thought he thought of me like a sister. I was wrong. Your cousin doesn't treat you how a brother should. I have a brother and other close male cousins they don't act like that. It's possible your cousin has other feelings for you I would listen to your fiance.

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I too grew up with a male cousin we did EVERYTHING together but never would've done those things sorry. We hug when we see eachother or a peck on the cheek not even lol its more like our cheeks touch but thats it.   Anything more would be extremly weird or uncomfortable for both of us. Plus that is you and YOUR mans house you are his woman no other male should be messing with you like that in front of him. That would infuriate me too if I saw my man and his female cousin up om eachother like that tbh...

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well... you clearly weren't comfortable with the bathroom incident or you wouldn't have bothered to be discreet. that says to me that you aren't as comfortable with the way he acts as you're making it sound. THAT, in turn, tells me something about the level of the inappropriateness of your cousins Behavior. going off of that, I'm going to have to give your fiance the benefit of the doubt that he's picking up on something that isn't appropriate.

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I grew up with my male best friend having bath together, sleeping together , etc...
However we don't donthese things as adults.
Even if he would be my real brother don't think it's appropriate! But that's just me.
However I can fully agree with your fiancee...you can still be good friends eith your cousin just keep some provacy

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I mean, it's kind of weird. He's definitely pushing the boundaries between you two... Especially since it sounded like you were uncomfortable in the bathroom. 
When l was 8 y/o my cousins from out of state were visiting and my boy cousin (like 10 y/o at the time) mooned me and had also randomly came in the room and jumped on the couch (on top of me) and air humped me (it was super bizarre). My mom freaked out and had a talk with him. Behavior like that should be addressed no matter how old or "comfortable" you guys are.

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I think you and your cousin are old enough now y'all need to set some boundaries.

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I think this behavior is totally inappropriate for an adult. You are not kids anymore. I would not accept this behavior from my husband. And an adult KNOWS this is inappropriate. I would even find it weird and inappropriate if it WAS your real brother. He behaves like a lover, not like a cousin. And you too, by letting him do it.

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Um why would he be mad at your cousin for doing this???? You guys are related it's not like he can do anything with you??? I'm confused

Is he in the wrong? or am I..

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