Ok so this may not be in the right room but I am asking it here because I would like you ladies (and men if there are any reading) to put yourself in my shoes and tell me what you would do. Now before I get started please let me stress that I am not really looking for your opinions on how you feel about my sister and her actions. I am not blind to the world. I know some will be im absolute disgust while others will not see the big deal. I am looking for what you think you would do in my situation. Let me start by saying that I have a great deal of love for my oldest sister (She is 33 and I am 29) and she is truly my best friend outside of my husband. She has a huge caring heart and feels your emotions for you when you are having a bad day. She is a very sensetive woman who has never had a good card dealt to her in her entire life. She has constantly had the worst luck. And I know some of you will say you make your own luck but some things have just truly come out of left field and knocked her on her ass no matter how hard she was working. I believe as a result of so many of these unfortunate events she has turned to men as a way of feeling validated and whole again. For lack of better words she has been intimate with a lot of men. Far more than can ever be counted. She has put herself in some very scary situations as a result but every time she says she is in love. I feel so awful for her because our family shows her a great deal of love and compassion but the only way she is capable of feeling truly beautiful is by the attention of a man. And even when she has that attention she is still seeking more from other men. I do not judge her for her proclivities however because it is her body. It is her right and her decision. It does not affect me in any way or change anything about or relationship whatsoever. So while others may be less than enthused to hear about her conquests, I do not judge. She is an adult. She does not judge the way I live my life or any of my past. Just simply has an open ear and advice when needed and she loves me regardless. Lately however she has gotten herself into a strange relationship. She is dating both a woman and a man who happen to be married to each other. They are both very nice people but I know they can tell that my sister is a very delicate and sensitive person. So it breaks my heart that they continue this relationship with her knowing her mental state. She is not the most emotionaly stable woman. And by what I have gathered the husband is allowed to date other women and the wife is allowed to date other men but if my sister even so much as talks to another man she is ridiculed and threatened to be kicked out on the street. But again whatever it is her life and she is a consenting adult. But where do we as a family step in and let her know our concern for her mental well being? She has admitted to thinking about suicide in the past and has some very backwards views of what love is. I know there is more than one kind of love but the kind she requires is getting to the unhealthy side of things. And even though I am supporting my sister and loving her I do not agree with the relationship. Just because I have never been in or witnessed such a situation. And the rules to their engagement are weird and makes me feel like the husband has no respect for the institution of marriage whether it be between a man and a woman, a man and a man, or a woman and a woman. She came to our family reunion campout last month and brought her relationship with her. Now my family consists of some very elderly aunts and uncles and young kids. Both of whom are very confused by the situation. Some of them were definetly not in agreement that my sister and this woman were both kissing and showing affection to the same man, sometimes at the same time. A lot of them were worried about them leaving a lasting impression on the young children. And if they want to raise their children that marraige between one man and one woman is the only way then that is their right. If they want to raise their children that you can share your body with whoever whether you are married or not again that is their right. This post is not about how you feel about what she is doing. I know cbildren will be subject to everything in society and on television. But here is my predicament. My gender reveal/birthday are coming up on Saturday (Sept16) thrown by my other sister in her home. My sister who is hosting the parry is very much in disagreement with the situation (again, her right) and does not want the man and wife there around her children. One of those children is troubled and has been under close monitoring due to her very early sexual interaction with boys and girls while at school. Also my sister has very Christian values. My step mom will be there and she is extremely incomfortable with the situation as well as an aunt who is a devout Catholic. They do not condemn her but would prefer to not be forced into an uncomfortable situation where my sister and this other woman and showing sexual affection towards this one man. And that is what happens. They are not modest about their feelings. I mean me and my husband don't just grope eachother in public because it would make people feel uncomfortable so them doing it would be the same idea. I also have a few friends coming who are very uncomfortable with her arrangement. So invites came late in the mail so I created a facebook group and invited those that I wanted to come and left the man and wife off of the list and invited my sister. She automatically assumed they were invited and is bringing them without even asking me how I felt about it. Their viewpoint being that it is their relationship so we have to accept it. Because who is anyone else to judge. But I really do not want my gender reveal to turn into a party that is all about "why are both those women hanging off that men" and gossio. It is suppose to be about my sweet baby Atlas and my son Thomas. I do not want the attention to be shifted away from that and everyone focusing and talking about her situation. I say that because that was exactly what happened at the reunion. It was no longer about the getting together of family and all about why my sister and this woman were grobing and making out with one man publicly. So what would you do? Tell her thathusb her husband and wife duo are not invited and break the trust and bond that we have had over beingaccepting of one another. Do I tell her they can come but no intimate contact and she introduces them as her roomates and impede on her right to a relationship and her own choices? Or do I just let it be and just spend my whole party listening to people gossip and they will. People are entitled to their own opinions a d who am I to say that they are not allowed to feel that way? Like I said I am not looking for your opinion on how you feel about what she is doing. I am looking for your thoughts on what you think you would do in that situation. Also please try to do your best with the typos as my phone isnt allowing me to scroll up and proof read. Thanks ladies!