Rather do this on my own what to do

My babies dad is manipulating and only wants things his way literally wouldn't even compromise on the name,hasn't bought anything for the baby besides a few outfits,hates my parents and constantly brings up why he hates them and how they treated him bad at the beginning etc and won't move forward and try to have any type of relationship with them and currently he's been all over this other girl who had a miscarriage (we've been broken up but it still hurts) and talks to her several times a day and will only talk to me when he feels like he has to has made us late to more than one appointment and will call me crying and upset and I talk to him because I feel bad when he feels overwhelmed but when I'm upset he doesn't even text me back and when I bring it up to that he doesn't even ask me how I'm doing during the day considering I'm carrying his child he gives me this whole I'm working 60 hours and barely have time for myself excuse but yet won't apply himself to find better jobs so he would have more time and I'm just done with it I don't want him around to begin with I'd rather just do everything on my own then have him make excuses and possibly hurt my baby and I don't want to have to fight to get him to agree on things anymore is it selfish of me to just want him to leave or for the baby some how to not be his so I can do everything on my own?

*****update

I told him when our next appointment was and blocked him I know it was petty but now I feel like he doesn't have a choice on when he gets to care or not. When I want him to know something I'll tell him otherwise I'm done. I'm also thinking about not telling him when I go into labor and just having the baby and naming the baby what I want and letting him know when I get settled in with the baby,that the baby is here like I planned to do with everyone else that wants to see the baby.