Do you think its selfish if you partner never goes down on you?

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and if you chose yes say why you think so?

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Well, yes kind of, sometimes, but that doesn't make them a bad person. No one should be pressured into any sex act they don't want to do, even if it's for selfish reasons, yes. Consent isn't just about being "fair". A yes is a yes and a no is a no whether it's said selfishly or not.

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My husband would like to, but I never liked it. So I'm fine with doing it to him and not receiving it. Sometimes I still let him do it though 😂

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because if he's getting head from me I should be getting head from him. that way u both are pleasured.

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I'm the one that doesn't reciprocate often due to childhood trauma. It used to bother him a lot, but once I explained it he fully understood how difficult it is for me.

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if he's getting some , i better be getting some but i guess it also depends . i have the implant , so i spot a lot at random times , so i get it 🤷🏻‍♀️ i don't want head , while bleeding anyways 😂

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Yes! I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years  and that's all we do (we don't go all the way) and he won't. He said he's not going to be any good at it and in the beginning of the relationship he tried so much but I wasn't ready but now I regret it 😩.

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Oops I meant yes! 
I'd return the favour and never go down on him until he starts getting down

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I understand if they have a reason for not (my friend has an over sensitive gag reflex, she often throws up trying to brush her teeth so a blow job is out of the question) but if they just don't want to take the time to pleasure you too, I'd be upset. It turns me on to give head but if they don't take the time to make sure I'm wet enough (I've been there) things are super uncomfortable. I don't even mind the occasional "tonight is all about you" for him, but 99% it's give and take.

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I would be incredibly upset. It isn't even about this whole give&get; thing. I believe that in relationships, you make sacrifices. If there is something sexual that my husband enjoys but I do not like doing, I do it anyway. As long as it isn't detrimental to me, I give him what he wants and needs. Why? Because as his partner I want to make sure that all of his needs. For us, "I don't like it," is a rather pathetic reason to deny each other something. I don't like motorcycles, but I'll get on the back of his anyway. He hates going to conferences/seminars on race relations in America, plays, museum exhibitions, but he does those things for me anyway. I know that not everyone is supportive of those types of relationships, but it works for us and we are happy.

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