7 years married and...

Hi. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years (November), and for the past 3 or 4, I haven't felt supported and that henis not trying anymore. I'm the only one fighting. We just started seeing a marriage counselor, but I don't know if it will work. I've talked to him several times about things and it's like, in one ear and out the other. He doesn't communicate with me, he and his witch of a mother plan things for the girls without telling me (we have a 5 and 3 year old), there are times he doesn't kiss me goodbye, and our sex life SUCKS. It's there, but it's the se thing over and over again. I'm beginning to wonder if we're more different than we thought. I hate California where we live. I used to live in Ohio and went out sometimes and was sociable. But when I moved out here, I had ZERO friends. People who told me they would hang out when I moved here did not. But my sister and mom moved in with us and my sister took me to karaoke (which I did for 5 years before moving out here), and now I have some semblance of a life. Maybe he doesn't like the fact I have a little life now outside of the home? I don't know...thoughts? All I want is communication and passion from him about anything.