I want to give up...help

My husband and I have been trying for 9-10 months without any luck. I started getting tested in march. My husband was suppose to get tested then too. Things kept coming up so now we are in September and he has put it on the back burner for the 4th time. I've been taking progesterone, tracking everything, and started acupuncture last month. Made an appointment for us with a reproductive specialist it sept 29th. I feel I'm wasting time and I'm done trying. On top of all this my step daughter is pregnant. So her I am 35 no children of my own and feeling like a complete waste. I know I'll regret not having kids of my own, but I feel I don't have a choice. My husband is also on lots off meds that effect fertility, and has said he will not look at other options. Any suggestions?