I feel like a terrible parent. My almost six year old has five cavities. Am I a bad Mom?

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So, just for starters my child is really good about brushing her teeth and mouth washing, even before bed every night. But her grandparents just LOVE to load her up on candy and ALL things sugar every time she's over there. 😔 I have talked to them about this, but it doesn't seem like they care. 
She has to get three crowns and two fillings. And I feel absolutely terrible. They are all baby teeth and she hasn't lost any teeth yet. 
But I just feel like I'm at fault. Completely. I am always very stern about dental hygiene and hygiene in general. So this feels like the worst news in the world to me!

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Have you had a blood test done to see if she's lacking a certain vitamin, calcium etc. My sister had a lot of cavities and is a good brusher. Good diet.  it turned out to be a deficiency. X

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Also be careful with overly doing dental work on a young child. Two crowns is a lot for them. Is it baby teeth? Molars? Maybe just pull them and wait for the adult teeth to come in. 
I've seen too many stories about dentists forcing parents into dental work just so they can make money and sometimes bad things happen to the kids because the procedures last too long.

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Some people are more prone to get cavities. The dentist told me I just have an acidic mouth. I had so many cavities growing up. It was so frustrating when my mom was always on me to brush my teeth twice a day and still kept getting cavities.
It's lessened since adulthood.

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No you're not a bad parent at all! some people are more susceptible to cavities. I always brushed and flossed and had so many! My brothers never brushed and never had any! It was frustrating.

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My niece had bad teeth like this too. The dentist just pulled them since they were baby teeth and let the adult ones grow in. But people were at fault for that lol doesn't sound like it's your fault for her teeth!

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I wouldn't worry (I know,  easier said than done).  My son is a great brushed and has two fillings.  The dentist has even commented each visit that he's got great,  clean teeth compared to most 8 year olds.  But unfortunately thanks to genetics,  he's prone to more cavities. Still makes you feel like shit but as long as we keep on top of it we are doing all that we can!

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Of course not! I had hella cavities when I was a kid but my mom is awesome!

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It might just be how your child's teeth are, I've always been super good at brushing and flossing my teeth all my life, but my teeth are apparently prone to getting cavities. I've had so many in my life even though I'm really good about taking care of them. The tops of my teeth are like rougher or something so it's super easy to get cavities. I've had dentists make remarks about my teeth (even though they don't look weird to me or anything, just the tops are rougher I guess?) so maybe your child has something similar and they're just really prone to getting cavities

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Is it possible that there is a genetic issue with her teeth? Weak enamel, maybe? My teeth are dreadful and I have always been careful about dental hygiene, which is why I am asking. It might be something that can't be helped beyond what you are already doing.

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What dentist do you use?

I feel like a terrible parent. My almost six year old has five cavities. Am I a bad Mom?

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